Interview Self Reflective Questions

Phases of Becoming & The Story of your Environment
Session II

Phases of Becoming

The Grand Overview

  • What are the pillars of your life? Is it family? Career? Activism? 

  • What are your core values in life?

  • Can you identify the transformational moments in your life? 

  • Have you made choices that would have greatly impacted the course of your overall life? 

  • Have there been health-related choices that have molded you? 

  • Have there been any people in your life that have taught you valuable lessons?

  • What has been your biggest fear and have you overcome it?

  • What is the biggest lesson from Failure that you have learned?

  • What hard experience made you a better person?

  • Do you remember a moment of gratitude that sticks out in time? 

  • What have you learned about yourself? 

Becoming an Adult 

  • Was there a moment in your life where you felt the transformation into adulthood? 

  • Do you have any rite of passages for this transition? 

  • How did your relationship with your parents change as you grew? 

  • What would you tell your younger self? 

Transformation with Family

  • When you think of Family, what is the first image that comes to mind? 

  • What has been the greatest adversity within your family that has transformed how you relate to them? 

  • What has been the greatest challenge in your family in general through the years? 

  • Have you ever had to deeply forgive a family member? 

  • What is a value that you cherish and have instilled in your family? 

  • Do you have any traditions that you started (or would like to start) with your family? 

Career and Work

  • What did you want to be when you were a child?

  • What is your version of success? 

  • What was your family's version of success?

  • What was your first job?

  • How did you get into this line of work? 

  • What are the proudest moments of your career? 

  • Who was your greatest mentor? 

  • What is your passion and how did you get started? 

  • How do you handle conflict in the workplace? Is this something you learned to do?

Describe the story of "Us"

  • Who were you before meeting your significant other? 

  • Are you or have you ever been married? 

  • Describe your love story

  • What is the first thing you thought when you first saw your partner?

  • Do you remember your first date? 

  • If you had to choose one shared memory to define your relationship what would it be and why?

  • Describe a turning point in your relationship.

  • What is the hidden gift of your biggest conflict?

  • What is your engagement story?

  • Did you talk about marriage before or was it a surprise? 

  • If your partner for some reason, lost their memory, what is the first thing you would tell them about you two?

  • How do you love differently than your partner? 

  • What is your love language? How do you express your love? 

  • What do you think has been the biggest challenge as a couple and how have you overcome it?

  • Have any current events changed your relationship in ways you didn't expect? 

  • What is the pain in your partner that you wish you could heal? 

Raising Children

  • Are you a parent of your own children or have you raised children? 

  • How did you find out you were going to be a parent? 

  • In what ways are your children like you or different? 

  • What has been the most rewarding part about becoming and being a parent? 

  • What has been the hardest lesson about being a parent? 

  • What lesson would you pass down to young parents? 

  • In what ways has your relationship with them changed over the years? 



There are moments in our lives, where we evolve and change as the seasons do. We transform into a deeper version of ourselves. This happens gradually as tides do or as sudden as earthquakes. They show us that, like nature, we are resilient as we change. These experiences help us understand and connect more deeply. 


Take some time here to chronologically indicate were those moments of transformation happened.


The story of your Environment

Recollection of your childhood and first memories in this world

  • Do you remember your first memory? 

  • Where did you grow up? ­ 

  • Describe the house you lived in.

  • ­Describe your hometown when you were a child.

  • What type of sensations bring back childhood memories?

  • What was your childhood world like?

  • What parts did you instill in your own children?

  • Describe the sort of food you ate. ­ 

  • Describe the types of clothes you wore. ­ 

  • Describe the games you played as a child.

  • Did you have chores? 

  • Did you like school What did you do for fun? 

  • Did you play sports or were you involved in other activities?

  • What type of music did you listen to?

  • Did you play any instruments?

  • Do any songs bring back specific memories? 

  • Did you have a nick name? 

  • Did you have a best friend? 

  • What were you interested in? 

  • What were you inspired by? 

  • What is a memory that brings you great joy about your childhood?

  • What were your curiosities as a child?

  • Did you know what you wanted to be when you grew up?

  • Where did you fall in sibling order in your family?

  • Any stories? Did you ever get into mischief? 

  • What relationship did you have with technology?

  • Did your family have any recipes that you remember?

  • Any that have now been passed down? 

  • What sort of things did your family celebrate? (Christmas, birthdays, etc)  ­

  • Describe a typical family Christmas/birthday and/or another appropriate family  gathering ­ describe a rite of passage or unveiling ceremony  

  • What were your family’s attitudes towards alcohol?  smoking? 

  • What was the discipline like at home?

  • What sorts of things were your parents strict about? How? Why?

  • Did you grow up in a safe home? 

  • What was the hardest lesson you had to overcome as a child? How did this experience change you?

  • What are part of your childhood experience that you wanted to instill in your own children? What parts did you want to protect them from? 

  • What is something in society that you see changing for the good that you went through growing up?

The story of your Environment


Here you will find some life-reflective questions to help the flow of your Second Interview Session. 

These questions are here as a tool to guide you and to begin the self-reflective process, and bring back memories that you might want to elaborate in the interview. You do not need to write out the answers, but if you wish to take notes, for your own reference, please feel free to do so.


Before this interview, I suggest you take out a moment and draw out a timeline of critical moments in your life that changed you and your environment. 

One fundamental question we ask throughout the interview is: 

What lessons and stories do you want to leave your children and great-grandchildren?