Interview Self Reflective Questions

Phases of Being and transition into Ancestry

Session 3

Phases of Being

This phase is about your current life, your current reflections, and what you look forward to. 

How has your life turned out differently than you expected it to?

What was the happiest time in your adult life so far and why?

Where do you live now and why?

Who has become your best friend?

What are your thoughts on current events, politics, technology and culture?

What are you excited about going forward?

What personal skills are you working to improve most right now?

Do you have Grandchildren?

How does family life differ for your grandchildren from the way family life was for you? 

Do you trust that the world will be a decent place for their growing up?

What is the best part about being a grandparent? What is the hardest part? 

What is one thing you like to be sure they remember?

What do you want them to know about you? 

What has changed within your family dynamics?

What do you want for your family?

What do you want to pass down to them?

What would you ask your parents today, if you could?

INTIMACY AS ART

in·ti·ma·cy

“impress,” or “make familiar,” which comes from the Latin intimus, meaning “inmost.” Intimacy is a close, family-like connection.

By intimately sharing the life you have lived with your loved ones, is to intimately invite them to know you and the lessons you carry. This means passing down, your stories, your perspective, the lessons you’ve learned, or have been passed to you, and your wisdom to the next generation. 

 

In ancient cultures, these became our oral stories, and ultimately become the creation stories of the future generations.

Transition into Ancestry

Transmit your legacy to future generations.

What were the most important values you taught your family?

What was the hardest lesson you have had to overcome?

What is a regret that you have had to learn to let go?

What is something you wish someone told you sooner? 

Do you hold a fundamental truth? 

Do you believe in an after life? 

Have you thought about how you wish to go into the afterlife? 

Does the thought of death frighten you?  

Do you have any wishes for your memorial?

Have you thought about what you want your epitaph to read? 

Do you feel as if things are in order for you to embark on your journey? 

 

How do you want your loved ones to remember you?

How do you want to be celebrated when you are no longer here? 

What words of wisdom would you like to tell this next generation?

What legacy do you want to leave behind?

TRANSMIT YOUR LEGACY

As you speak and record your life to pass down, this essentially becomes a transformative experience. 

Take this time as a great reflection on your life, and transmit your wisdom and begin the preparation, the right of passage into ancestry. Just as we have rights of passage that take preparation, like weddings, we have to also put this right of passage into the forefront of the preparation of the voyage home.

 

The great ancient cultures that came before us, called this period of time a transition into the most interior part of the self. This phase that usually comes at around the age of 77-84 was the time where people went to the elders for their council. It was a time where elders were in a position of service, to give hope to the community and advise. 

 

We have to take the opportunity when it is our time and also give the opportunity to our elders to transmit these profound messages. 

Image by Ekaterina Shakharova

Here you will find some life-reflective questions to help the flow of your Final Interview Session. 

These questions are here as a tool to guide you and to begin the self-reflective process, and bring back memories that you might want to elaborate in the interview. You do not need to write out the answers, but if you wish to take notes, for your own reference, please feel free to do so. 

 

One fundamental question we ask throughout the interview is: 

What lessons and stories do you want to leave your children and great-grandchildren?

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Learn about recording a special session to be delivered to the family at a later date